I don't feel guilty about wanting to take my kids on a vacation and have a sitter with. I want to spend time with my kids of course, but I'd like a little adult fun too. I see nothing wrong with wanting to go out at night with your spouse. The kids are most likely sleeping so I don't see what the problem would be. Oh, by the way I'm a stay at home mom and with my kids all the time so a vacation with a babysitter would actually be a vacation for me.