Well, there's a lot going on here. Seeing as you've tried talking with your husband adn he's not receptive, maybe you should try a counselor. May sound a little extreme, but having an objective third party to help guide you to chaning this behavior (and yours as well- it's never just one person's problem) should be very helpful. Try to get this rolling before the baby comes - it will be much more difficult to work through then, but you should really get some changes happening now. Good luck and keep us posted!