Feline - thanks. I couldn't agree more. It's funny how you start to notice people's perception of sexual orientation. We are in the college search for my son and the university that I work at is a Vincentian college. The woman in admissions thought she was being very welcoming by pointing out to Abe that they feel it's certianly a person's right to "choose" and that whatever their "choice", the college accepted it. I actually stopped counting at 25 times she used the word "choose". People don't choose to be gay anymore than they choose to be heterosexual. She truly was trying to be open and helpful, but didn't even realize the impression she was creating. (I am close enough to her tha I can provide some gentle education in this mattter in the weeks to come, and I believe she will be very amenable to it.)