Alexa - I'd be interested in the link if you'd care to send it to me privately as well. I know we'd all like to keep this nice, however I feel like that the mom's that are working are taking a hit here. It's not alwasy aa matter of working because of the things you WANT - sometimes it is a necessity and it's not just because of some terrible cancer in the family or something. And even if that's not the case, and they just want to work outside the home, they shouldn't be made to feel bad about it. I was extremely lucky to stay home with my son (almost) full time until he was about 15 years old and we live a very modest lifestyle. Don't really know that I am arguing the case one way or another, I jsut got the feeling of a very negative attitude towards those mothers who do work outside the home.