me and my hubby are going to have our 2 child but it like he talks about his xgirl friends allot. i was wounding if maybe having and sound child is why.is he cared i told him i don't like hearing about his old love lifes and his old sex life it just make me so mad . but he steal doing i can put up with it any more he even talk about these thing in front my 3 year old and i really disagree with that. she dosen't need to know that stuff yet she just 3 year old for goodness. i love my husband and hole allot what can i do to make this end with out living him.

Well I'm glad you told him that you don't like hearing about his old girl friends and such. BTW is this the second baby you're having with him? If this is his first child, then maybe he is feeling a bit anxious. Like reality is hitting him and that he has to "settle" down because he's starting a family and now he's going to have more responsibility. I hope things work out between you two. Hang in there and keep talking with him.

I presonally think that ex loves life shouldnt be in any conversation at all since dating times. He should have known it, talk to him, tell him its not necessary to bring the ex stories here, and be serious about it, if not ask why him he does that, just my 2 cents.

my first child is also his we been though allot with his xgirl friends calling he house at to in the morning wanting him to meet them at hotels and just all kinds of crazy things. i am starting to wounder if he wants to be single again, or he likes getting me mad. i talked to him about it but it seems not to do anything at all. we been together for 5 almost 6 years been married for 2. do men get sick of there home life and try to make the wife feel bad by taking about thing like were they had sex with xgirl friends and how he took her to court and had sex with hr before this stuff if really starting to get to me. should i play his game and start talking about these things to or just act like i dont hear them. i really hate the fact that he dont wait till our 3 year is in the bed before he talks this way we have go into it so many time because of that. i try not to fuss in front of my lil girl and i try not to lose my cool. but it like he dont care about talking this way in front our lil girl. should i maybe try to get him to go to some tape of canceling with me... i guess this is really starting to stay on my mind i won't even have intercouse with him anymore couse i wounder if he think about x gril friends.

It seems like you may have a bigger problem than what i thought. Most people would say go to the counselign process, but thats means that 2 of you see the problems and wish to solve it. It doesnt looks like this case.

First of all, whats so hard to not see his ex girlfriend, he is a married man, he can tell her to (if he wants to). Worst, you can always use the court for restrainign order. I am a guy too, and i wouldnt tell my current girlfriend/wife off the face of how and many times I had sex with others. Unless i want to make you jealous (i 'd be very immature in this one).

I think you give him almost everything he wants and he doesnt seem to realize it. He seem lacking of commiment, just my thoughts.

No matter what, you need to get some counseling and guidance on your own. THis wil help you to set the boundaries like not talking about things in front of your daughter, etc. It doesn't sound like he's going to be willing to change and that there are more complex issues here to deal with. Good luck.

I would definately go to counseling by yourself - I doubt - though you should try to ask - that he would want to go with you. He is not respecting your feelings when you tell him how it makes you feel, and he is not respecting your child's either when he talks about such things in front of your child.

I agree with the others. You should seek some professional help. It would help if hubby went too but guys have a hard time admitting that they need help with something. If you go by yourself then maybe you'll get ideas about how to better approach the situation.

IMO, you have to stop and reflect, there must be a reason why your husband is acting this way. Think of the past, the present, everything that has happened between the two of you and why he has been reminiscing his exgf's at this point when he must have been excited of the new baby. I believe that if you can't figure it out, then you can ask for an advice from a counselor or somebody mature enough to understand the matter.

thanks yeah i think i got it now i talked to my lawer yesterday she advised me to get what he says on tape so i am going to get and tape recorder today.i been writing down stuff that has happen also like him not being able to witch my lil girl while i was at work i had to quit because i come home and she was no were in the house think god she was on her swing set.