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i am a mother of three children two boys(3.5-1year)and one girl (2 years).i am always angry i scream.shout at my babies.i often slap the two elder.i feel very tired .sometimes i hate my duty as mother .i love my children , but since i was married i had not any rest after a week of my delivery i found myself alone to take care of each one of my babies .my husband was absent when my two babies were born.i am the mother and the father because my husband works far from home in another town(1000 kilometres).i have never a holiday. i hope to sleep along night without been awaked by the children.i hope to have a hobby .i hope to do shopping .i hope to go in holiday.oooooooooooooooooooohhh i know that all these are only hopesz nothing will be changed untill the children grow up but i am afraid of my anger because really it is out control.please don t judge me but help me by your advice
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galeria

Galeria. No honey you are not a bad mother. You are just overloaded. I don't know what you religious background is but I will share something in the hopes that it can help you. I am from Africa. There you take care of the children yourself even if your hubby is home. You feed them , clothe them, bathe them by yourself. It drove me crazy for a while. I have a set of twins and two singles. I love my children and I realized it was up to me to make some sense out of my predicament. I decided to make a plan. It will be hard but you have to stick to it because this is ENTIRELY on your shoulders. Build your patience. If they cry at the same time, make sure they are dry and fed and have no fever and put them in their room and leave for five minutes. They will probably cry louder but you have to persevere. In that five minutes you take a few breathes and relax. Gather your thoughts and form a plan. Think. 1. Why is each one crying? If you can't find a reason why then let them cry. As time goes on they will realize that when they cry unneccessarily, they get no attention. They sound like they crave your attention. Give them as much equal attention as you can. Be firm but gentle and kind. If they don't learn that from you, they will be lost forever. Toughen up. You have the make up just by being a mom. You went through labor three times and pregnany too. You can do it. Don't think about it as your duty - it's your blessing NOT your duty. Accept the fact that you can't get help from your man because of the way things are. Embrace it. It helps. Prioritize. Put them to sleep together and then sleep too. Anything that can wait to be done SHOULD wait. You are a mother not a machine. You go girl and let mw know. BE PATIENT, don't expect results in two days. Keep at it for yourself and you children.

I hope this helps.