Okay, because I've been there, I'm going to share something. My dh and I wanted to get pregnant for quite a while. When we started trying, nothing seemed to be working. I would think every month that every little thing was a pregnancy symptom when all I was doing was making myself half sick with worrying. We decided NOT to try one particular month because we didn't want the baby's birthday to end up right at Xmas. The next month we were so busy with work, we didn't really "try" we just let things happen as they would. I figured the next month I would get back to charting and taking temps and all that. As luck would have it, the one month I wasn't stressing about it is when we hit the jackpot. Our son is now four months old and the light of our lives. Good luck to everyone, and I know it's the last thing you want to hear, but RELAX!!

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Tigriz
Mom to Alex - 1/21/06

Stress is definitely a factor. My brother and his wife were trying for months to conceive their second child and it just wasn't happening. My sister-in-law was would up too tight about everything. When she finally relaxed she got pregnant. My little neice is now 8 months old and just perfect.

i totally agree, you can get so stressed out about it not happening that you actually make it harder to conceive. sometimes the best method is to try and relax and not worry about charts and times of the month.

I agree, one of the factors affecting conception is really stress. However, a visit to the doctor for a check-up on other possibilities and problems is also highly recommended.

Along the same topic - I just saw a news story about how hypnosis is actually helping woman who are going through IVF (in vitro fertilization) become pregnant. The good thoughts being implanted in their mind and the release of stress is raising the IVF sucess rate from around 30% to 70%. Amazing.

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Regulating your stress is imiportant in all the stages. Of course getting pregnanct is the first step. Watch your stress levels, eat healthy and exercise (even if it's just walking) all help to regulate your body's clock and will make the process simpler. (However if after 6 - 12 months you still haven't succeeded, by all mean do visit a doctor)

Meditation and tantra are also good ways of relieving the stress. Face it if you're too worried about the performance resulting in a product then that right there isn't good energy for conceving. Nature knows what it's doing and often times people just need to RELAX and let things happen naturally.

I read an article yesterday that said one out of five couples who have had numerous failed IVF attempts end up getting pregnant within a year once they "stop" trying to conceive. Meaning, they've been told they can't conceive, so there is no need to use birth control. Then they've stopped thinking about it so much, and voila! Happy baby!! I thought that stat was amazing.

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Tigriz
Mom to Alex - 1/21/06